Can Do! (Part 1)

Stormy morning SE Mexico by Chris Couch

The art of what you may become

What does that mean?

I am not going to stand here and tell you lies. I am not going to pump you up like a balloon, make you feel invincible and then send you outside to blow away or, god forbid, pop.  Not everybody can or will be millionaires. Not everybody can or will be professional athletes. Not everybody is beautiful or handsome or witty or Mensa material. Not to say that any of the above are unattainable or out of your reach, either currently or in the future but….  Let’s start at the beginning and work our way towards perfect. Let’s assume that right now, things are not how you want them to be. Things, right now, are, somewhere, south of perfect.

OK, now that we have established that this is not a ‘get rich quick’ scam or a sales pitch for plastic surgery we can begin.

The best you possible? What is that? Some kind of blue sky thinking, outside the box, journey to enlightenment? Put simplyNo.

If you have come here expecting to go on a soul journey then I’m afraid you are in the wrong place. This is about the here and now, the tangible and the doable. I do not have spiritual answers and frankly you should never give your money to someone who says that they do. The truthYour Truth – is inside you.  You can look for your truth in religion, in your work, in your friends and family, even in a crystal ball but your truth is inside you. It always was.  You need to find your truth, get to know it, get to like it. Like your reflection in a mirror your truth will be with you for a very long time. It may change in appearance somewhat and similar to your physical self, your truth may change with age but its features remain the same. In essence, your truth is you.

“To accomplish great things we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe.”

– Anatole France, French writer, 1844-1924

But what does this have to do with being the best you possible can be?

Well, in order to be the best you can be you need to know who you are, accept who you are and build on those foundations. I told you that we would be starting at the beginning! Something I personally feel is of utmost importance, is that you really get to know yourself and like yourself. If you are thinking right now that you do not like yourself then something is very, very, wrong. I would hazard a guess that rather than not liking yourself you are actually in conflict. Or I should say, your actions are in conflict with yourself. If you are behaving in a way that makes you angry, upset, or disappointed with yourself then you are not being true to your core values, ideals and morals. If this were not true then quite simply you would be contented. Happy even.

If I may, I am going to share a quote with you. I like this quote. It is short, to the point and very telling.

“If you are lonely when you’re alone, you are in bad company.”

– Jean-Paul Sartre

If there is one thing that I would like you to take away from this treatise it is that the most important key to contentedness is liking yourself. Call me a smug ass but I enjoy my own company, I laugh at my own jokes, I am my own biggest fan. I love myself. No sniggering please, this is not that kind of self-help course! The love you are capable of having for yourself is a very special kind of love. It is an unconditional, understanding, calming, soothing love. This is the love that will wrap its arms around you when, quite frankly, no one else gives a shit. When it seems like the world is turning against you, when others belittle your appearance, your ideas, your personality, your religion, your sexuality, your love of 80’’s popular music, ok that might be just me but…. You will be able to turn away and either literally or figuratively say,‘Fuck you’. I’ve got me buddy, it would be great if you came on board with x,y or z but if you don’t want to… Fine. Because I’ve got me. Now before you accuse me of being a narcissist, let me caveat what I have said with one thing. Loving and accepting yourself does not mean that you blind yourself to your faults or love everything.

Love not what you are but what you may become.

The key to all of this is to open your mind, rid yourself of self doubt and any past or emotional baggage. Sounds scary but it really is not. First we need to take a hard look at our selves. Anything can be achieved if we start off with small steps but keep building those steps the sky, remember, is the limit providing you don’t limit yourself?!

To make those life forming changes and to make those changes effective and manageable we need to break it down into those small steps. By creating small steps and linking them together we can create a grand staircase that can spiral to the direction you want it to go.

Transformation means little and often gradual changes and improvements from one stage to another.

It does not matter if the changes are subtle, each change has a significant impact on the direction your life will take you and have impact over the long term.

Remember you can eat an elephant but only one bite at a time!

Making changes requires a routine AND it needs constancy. Think of raising a child if you are not consistent with your discipline the boundaries become murky and this applies to you! The more frequently you make changes the easier it becomes!

Some one has drawn their circle of life and filled in from 1-10 as to where they are in life in each section! As you can see this is disjointed and therefore the circle will not go around smoothly it will offer a bumpy ride. It does not matter at the moment if we are all running on fives. We can increase the levels once it’s running in a full circle! So let’s draw our circle fill in each slice that represents your life and give it a mark 1 being the lowest and 10 the highest. This is something to redo every three months to ensure you are running smooth with no more bumps!

How do we decide what and where we want to be?

There are a number of ways we can help you on your journey to change and success. First let’s take part in a quiz just to see what level of change and commitment you need to put in place to build your staircase!

Now we need you to assess where you are in life? We all need to have a full circle and it needs to roll. We can not drive a car if the tire is punctured and this applies to life.

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